Anger Management

Years in Practice

25 years +


San Marcos CA 92069 - United States



Additional Expertise

Clergy, Marriage Coach, Marriage Educator, Mediator, Relationship Coach, Speaker/Presenter, YourTango Expert Partner

I Practice in

All areas, please inquire



I Believe

You deserve to have honesty, safety, trust, respect, and reliability in your relationship. Mutuality is everything. If it is not there, and you feel alone, put down, and emotionally exhausted, you deserve better. Strong people get help..

About Rhoberta Shaler, PhD

​As a relationship consultant, educator, and speaker, I offer relationship help to my clients to support them with stressful and high conflict partnerships. I specialize in working with the partners, exes, adult children, and co-workers of relentlessly difficult people. I call them "Hijackals™." 

What does this look like? 

High conflict--Hijackal™--partnerships are ones where you feel like you're "always wrong". It could be with your spouse, your parent, your ex, co-worker or friend. The experience for you is that you are "never right"; no matter what you do, or how hard you try, it's never "right." In many high conflict relationships, you frequently experience emotional extremes: high times and very low times, love and hate, breaking up and working it out. It's a rollercoaster ride, for sure.

Ultimately you spend a lot of time and emotional energy trying to "fix" your relationship but are left feeling lost about what to do.

This is where I can help you.

Relationships like this are exhausting. This is partially true because people often don't realize they are in a high conflict relationship. Arguing, feeling ignored and feeling like you're never good enough become "normal". Even though a big part of your heart and brain knows this can't possibly be true.

I'm want you to listen to that voice.

The part of you that tells you that "this isn't normal" is on to something and this is where I can help you. When you love someone who pushes you away, yet demands that you stay it is not only confusing, it's a betrayal and no one can live with that push and pull for long, without giving in or giving up. 

Does it mean your relationship has to end? Not necessarily. But, it does mean that you need some support to figure out how bad things are going to get and what, if any, hope is there to recover the love that you once shared.

If this is the situation you're in, I can absolutely help you. 

The quiet voice in your head/heart that speaks to you tells you that things need to get better; that you don't have to be quite so miserable in your relationship; that you're worth more and that healthy love isn't so hard... LISTEN to that. And reach out. I'm here.  

As a relationship consultant, I offer urgent and ongoing care for couples and individuals across the globe. I have been working with people struggling with life, death, and relationship for over thirty years in the United States and Canada . My mission is stopping emotional and verbal abuse, and to bring hope, comfort, strength, insights, and strategies to people who may have given up believing a healthier relationship and happier life was possible. 

To learn more visit www.ForRelationshipHelp.com  


If  you want to know if you're with a Hijackal, download my free ebook, How To Spot A Hijackal, at Hijackals.com 

Join my closed Facebook group to get insights, strategies, and support if you've experienced life with a Hijackal, Facebook.com

VISIT MY WEBSITE:  ForRelationshipHelp.com 

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