I Believe"Sex is part of nature. I go along with nature." ~ Marilyn Monroe "Authenticity is Sexy" - Dr Lori Beth Bisbey
About Lori Beth Bisbey
As a psychologist, sex oach and consultant, I have always had a variety of interests. I have spent a large part of my career working with people to help find, improve, mend and end their intimate relationships. During the last 25 years I have been heavily involved with psychological assessments for Family Court, divorce mediation, relationship and sex therapy, family and child therapy.
More recently, I have become a Whole Life Certified Coach. I love the dynamic focus from the present to the future and particularly enjoy helping people create intimate relationships with others that are fulfilling, authentic, exciting and enduring as well as helping people who live in spite of chronic illness create full vibrant lives.
In 2016 I created the A to Z of Sex. The podcast is on iTunes and can also be found on www.atozofsex.com. I am working my way through the erotic alphabet a letter at a time with the help of my guests who so far have included a psychoanalyst, psychologists, sexologists, sex therapists, an astrologer, a healer, educators and everyday people. We have covered arousal to open relationships to vaginismus.
Having experienced trauma as a young woman, I spent many of my clinical and research hours working with Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder and some of the other problems that can arise after traumatic events. It is one of my convictions that my work as a coach or a therapist is grounded in the authentic relationship that develops between myself and those I am facilitating in the sessions. I believe that if I am going to use techniques or particular methods to work with someone, I should experience these techniques myself and also that a good coach or therapist, does her own personal work. I began my personal development work when I was a teenager and I continue it today. Alongside my more conventional work experience, I studied a number of different spiritual theories and methods of work, creative means of therapy (including use of music, movement and play) and all of these have become tools in my kit that I use in my work with clients.
I believe that sexuality is a moveable feast; that we grow and change over our lifespan if we are given the acceptance and the encouragement to do so. The most successful, fulfilling and enduring relationships are those in which all parties are authentic, communicate and pursue growth. I am passionate about helping people discover their authentic sexual selves, identify the relationships that will work best for them and go out into the world to create these relationships.
Wiley and Sons published a book I co-authored in 1998 on a method of treatment for Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder and I also co-authored a book on Rites of Passage in 2002.
Personally, I am bisexual, polyamorous, and have one son. I live in spite of systemic lupus and a variety of other autoimmune diseases. I am US born and educated and have lived in the UK for the past 26 years. I travel back and forth between the UK and the US frequently. I also work in Europe regularly. My greatest pleasures apart from my work are spending time with people I love, reading, writing, travel, music (making it and listening to it), cooking and relaxing with my dogs and chickens.
Lori Beth Bisbey Success Stories
What happened to the sex?
Couples trying to start over
Jamie and Lenny came to see me after having been together for 5 years. They both told me that sex was great for the first 6 months of their relationship but that since then, sex had become routine and dwindled until they were having sex only 'on special occasions'. They came to see me as they felt it was their 'last chance' to work things out. Lenny had been talking about marriage and Jamie wasn't willing to consider it until they sorted out their sexual issues.more
I started by seeing each of them individually for a session as I usually do so I can get a full individual picture. It was clear that they both wanted to work things out and both felt awful about the demise in their intimate life. We started having sessions together weekly, working resolving outstanding issues and upsets, communication, prioritizing the relationship and spicing things up.
At three months, things had improved quite a bit. Jamie and Lenny opted to continue to work with me focusing on exploring new sexual activities, negotiating skills and considering polyamory. At 6 months, Jamie and Lenny reported that their relationship had never been more exciting. We ended our work just after they became engaged as they both felt secure enough in the relationship to move forward and deepen their commitment.
Jamie got in touch with me two years after they finished working with me to tell me they were married and that their sex life was still a blast.