Want To Be Happy? Be Grateful!


If you’re like many of us, you’re constantly being bombarded with advertising, “reality” shows, TV programs and magazines specializing in celebrity lifestyles. Or maybe you’re hooked on award show red carpet coverage (“Who are you wearing?”) You may watch “Most Expensivest”. If you’re old enough, you may have been a fan of “Lifestyles of the Rich and Famous” back in the day.

All of this can be good fun. What’s the harm in fantasizing about being fabulously wealthy and having access to the best of everything? If buying the latest and greatest fashion, skin care product or makeup gives your confidence a boost, what’s wrong with that? Nothing really – unless those things seduce you over to the dark side.

The dark side: compare and despair

The dark side is where you feel deep inadequacy and dissatisfaction. It’s often a consequence of not appreciating all the good things you already are and already have. It’s a state created from constant comparison with others - whether celebrities in the mass media or our next-door neighbors on social media – and believing that you as a human being and your current everyday life just don’t measure up, especially when it comes to purely material symbols of success and accomplishment.

That’s bad enough, but it can get worse and it often does. You may find yourself feeling worthless, as though your life is unimportant. You may feel envious and frustrated over all the things that the lucky others have that you don’t. 

Another version of comparison that can be just as damaging is when you compare where you are in your in current life to your own aspirations and desires. You may judge yourself harshly. You tell yourself that if you were “better” or worked harder or lost ten pounds or had the right clothes, handbag and shoes you’d be able to make all of your dreams come true. You’re striving for some future version of you that will be perfect, which will get you everything you desire, and then you’ll finally be happy.

With either or both of these things going on in your head, you almost certainly won’t feel contentment, satisfaction or happiness right now, in the present moment.

Even if your life circumstances are far from perfect, there is always something to be grateful for. When you express gratitude you are creating real, powerful, practical magic! What you are thankful for takes a more central place in your life. It becomes a focal point where you experience “having” - abundance, plenty; as opposed to “lacking” – poverty, scarcity. Since what we focus on increases, it matters.

Although a tarot reading often looks to the future, it can also provide support for bringing your attention to the present, seeing yourself in a positive but also realistic way. It can guide you to a clearer, healthier awareness of the gifts, blessings and benefits you already possess. Through gratitude you can create even more gifts, blessings and benefits in your life.

Tarot readers can often see patterns in the cards that help you appreciate the good things available to you. You can discover your own worth and that of the people and things that foster your strength and growth. You can find yourself feeling renewed and nourished, ready to appreciate and enjoy today while following the goals and dreams you want to manifest.

For example, in tarot, Major Arcana card 10 – the Wheel of Fortune, symbolizes that life circumstances are constantly changing. Some days you lose or your luck appears to be out, other days good timing and right action bring wealth, abundance and positive events your way.

Let’s say you draw the Major Arcana card 19 – the Sun, along with Major Arcana card 7 – the Chariot. Recognition and reward for your efforts are coming your way. You and the work you’ve done are valued. You are making good decisions and staying the course – you’re on track to achieve your goals.  

By reading your tarot cards you can reconnect with your true self, celebrate the good things already present in your life and move forward confidently toward an even more fulfilling, abundant, happy future.


Gratitude Quotes


“If you want to find happiness, find gratitude.”

― Steve Maraboli, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience

“An attitude of gratitude brings great things.”

― Yogi Bhajan

“If the only prayer you said was ‘thank you’ that would be enough.”

― Meister Eckhart

“Be grateful for what you already have while you pursue your goals. If you aren’t grateful for what you already have, what makes you think you would be happy with more?”

― Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart

“Let gratitude be the pillow upon which you kneel to say your nightly prayer. And let faith be the bridge you build to overcome evil and welcome good.”

― Maya Angelou, Celebrations: Rituals of Peace and Prayer

“Cultivate the habit of being grateful for every good thing that comes to you, and give thanks continuously. And because all things have contributed to your advancement, you should include all things in your gratitude.”

― Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Acknowledging the good that you already have in your life is the foundation for all abundance.”

― Eckhart Tolle, A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life's Purpose

“When you are grateful, fear disappears and abundance appears.”

― Anthony Robbins

“When you express gratitude for the blessings that come into your life, it not only encourages the universe to send you more, it also sees to it that those blessings remain.”

― Stephen Richards

“Have gratitude for all that you have, and you can be happy exactly as you are.”

― Mandy Ingber

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Dona Murphy is a life and relationship coach who supplements her sessions with tarot card readings to empower clients along their journey of spiritual development and personal growth. Visit her website Destiny Tarot® at www.dstnytarot.com, or download her free weekly Tarotcast™ readings for more information.