100 'Getting To Know You' Questions To Ask On First Dates

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100 Get To Know You Questions To Ask A Guy Or Girl On First Dates
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First dates are supposed to be a playful and fun way to get to know someone new. And if you really want to know how to not only get a guy (or girl) to like you, but how you can learn more about him in order to make sure you really like him and want to keep dating him, there questions you can ask that will help both of you out.

There may be some quiet times during your conversation, and that’s fine and dandy. Those moments give you an opportunity to look into each other’s eyes and smile.

But when you’re not soul gazing, you can and should be getting to know each other better.

Preparing yourself by studying up on some great "getting to know you" questions to ask a guy will make your flirting easier and far more effective.

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Be sure not to plow through these questions like a dump truck going through a wooden fence. Give them a little time to simmer, and let your date ask you some questions, too.

And do not ask every one of these questions on your very first date. If you do, your guy will think you’re using some kind of enhanced interrogation techniques endorsed by the CIA.

Here are 100 questions to ask on first dates that will help you get to know someone new.

1. What are some of your favorite things to do when you have free time?

2. Which do you like better, the mountains or the beach?

3. Have you ever met anyone famous? If so, what were they like?

4. What's your favorite childhood memory?

5. Do you have any pets?

6. Have you traveled much? Where are some of your favorite places?

7. When are you the most productive? Are you a night owl, or a morning bird?

8. What’s your favorite thing to eat for breakfast?

9. Do you have any brothers or sisters?

10. If you could work anywhere in the world, where would it be?

11. Are you currently binging on any shows? Tell me all about it!

12. Would you ever jump out of a plane?

13. Where’s your favorite watering hole?

14. If you lived on a desert island and only had one record which one would you want it to be?

15. How do you relax?

16. What is one thing on your bucket list that you haven’t done yet, but can’t wait to do sometime?

17. Which animal do you think is the cutest or ugliest animal?

18. If you could hang out with anyone in the world for one day alive or dead, who would you pick?

19. What’s the shadiest thing you've ever done?

20. Where is your favorite city? Why?

21. Did you have a nickname when you were a kid?

22. If you could be more handsome or more intelligent, which would you choose?

23. What is your favorite quote?

24. Do you ever tell corny jokes?

25. Are you afraid of anything, like snakes or heights?

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26. What’s your favorite piece of technology?

27. How many online dates have you been on?

28. If someone raided your bedroom, would they be surprised by anything they find?

29. Are you a spender or a saver?

30. How did you meet your best friend?

31. Did you do anything fun last summer?

32. Do you sing in the shower or your car?

33. What’s your favorite flavor ice cream?

34. What’s your favorite movie?

35. If you could be a favorite character, which one would it be?

36. What were your favorite shows when you were a kid?

37. Is there a smell that always reminds you of good memories?

38. What are you good at?

39. What kind of clothes did you wear in high school?

40. What is your favorite meal?

41. What do you appreciate more, physical touch or getting a gift?

42. Did you ever get sent to the principal's office? And what for?

43. What's your favorite holiday?

44. Red wine or white wine?

45. What do you think you’ll be doing when you’re 85?

46. Do you like to work out? What’s your routine if you have one?

47. What is your favorite sport to play?

48. How would your friends describe you?

49. Do you know any other languages?

50. Are more left-brained or right-brained?

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51. What was the first job you ever had?

52. Did you take family vacations when you were a kid?

53. What happens if you think you’ve lost your phone?

54. Do you post a lot on social media?

55. What makes you happy?

56. Where do you see yourself in 10 years?

57. What was the hardest subject for you in high school?

58. Who was your favorite teacher and why?

59. How often do you talk to your best friend?

60. Would you prefer going to a big party or spending time with a few friends?

61. What’s your favorite board game?

62. Have you ever made up a nickname for someone?

63. What is the weirdest fact you know?

64. What's something about you that you think will surprise me?

65. Who is your celebrity crush?

66. If you won $10,000, what’s the first thing you would buy?

67. What’s one place you want to visit before you die?

68. Do you like spending time with your family?

69. What do you consider a fun night out?

70. What kind of books do you like to read?

71. What’s the worst movie you’ve ever seen?

72. If you go on a trip, do you make plans or do you prefer being spontaneous?

73. What is your least favorite food?

74. What is the hardest thing you’ve ever done in your life?

75. Who was your most significant role model?

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76. What was one of the most exciting days of your life?

77. What do you usually do for the holidays?

78. How often do you meet new people?

79. Do you talk to strangers?

80. What’s your favorite type of food?

81. Have you ever done any public speaking?

82. What’s your favorite Karaoke song?

83. What is your favorite outfit?

84. What is your dream car and what color would it be?

85. Do you like driving fast?

86. What’s the coolest place you’ve ever gone swimming?

87. Do you prefer mountain biking or road biking?

88. Have you ever gone skiing?

89. Do you play any sports?

90. What are your favorite sports teams?

91. Do you like going to professional sporting events?

92. Do you watch the Super Bowl every year?

93. When was the last time you sent someone a hand-written note or card?

94. What is something that always makes you smile?

95. Would you ever live in a tiny house?

96. Who are your three favorite people?

97. When would you want to retire?

98. Do you have a secret talent?

99. Where do you spend most of your time?

100. Are we going to have a second date?

(That last question is a joke ... kind of.)

Now that you know which questions to ask in order to get to know someone, you're all set with some great first date ideas.

Remember that your conversation doesn't have to (and really shouldn't) rely on these 100 questions alone. You can come up with your own flirty questions, as well as topics of conversation you feel will help you learn more about the person you're interested in.

What's most important is that you listen and stay curious. When you're interested in other people, they find you interesting, too.

And whatever you do, do not hog the conversation. Let your date answer each question in full and ask their own questions in return.

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Dina Colada is an author, speaker and dating coach whose work has appeared on sites like Prevention, MSN, Women’s Health, Plenty of Fish and Zoosk. She specializes in helping single women navigate the modern world of online dating and offers a powerful, free Boyfriend Checklist to help you manifest your ideal relationship with a man starting today.

This article was originally published at Dina Colada. Reprinted with permission from the author.

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