Life isn't easy -- where'd be the fun in that?
About Cheryl Gerson
I am a psychotherapist, in private practice in New York for the past 25 years. I work with individuals, counsel couples, and lead groups.
I’m a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, a Board Certified Diplomate with the American Board of Examiners. I earned a certificate in psychoanalytic psychotherapy from the Greenwich Institute of Psychoanalytic Studies in New York City.
I’m active in the Eastern Group Psychotherapy Society and the New York Society for Clinical Social Work. I have been married for 50 years and am both a mother and a stepmother, and a happy grandmother.
This is my second career, and so I bring to it considerable life experience. I was trained psychoanalytically, but I follow a fairly broad spectrum of theoretical philosophies. My general aim is to help you balance head and heart.
Many people think of therapy as just for those who are in some way ill. It can be so much more. We can develop unexpected ways to handle old problems; we can focus on managing stress. People who come to therapy to work out old issues, or unresolved grief, often stay to learn how to live with themselves more joyously. Problems in marriage usually respond almost immediately to the presence of a third, trained party.
Ultimately, the goal of therapy is to help you be your best self.
If you are considering couples counseling, it's important for you to know that the treatment is for the relationship, never to "fix" one partner or the other. I find it wonderfully surprising how many "hopeless" relationships can be brought back to life, when both parties are willing.
Come and talk to me; I'd be pleased to hear from you. See my website for more details.
Cheryl Gerson Success Stories
It's Not the End
Couples dealing with infidelity
It could have been tempting to blame him and identify him as the "bad" partner, deserving to be left. But they had a long history of good marriage.
It was tricky for her to accept him "back" without excusing his behavior, but she was up for the effort. And he was willing to examine himself, to shore up his ability to deal with his impulses.
At this point in time, their marriage is stronger and more intimate than it was before his "fall."
Sometimes a Break-up is Best
Women in complicated relationships
When I met Alice, she was living with with an addict who, although technically "in recovery" was nevertheless unable to maintain a satisfying relationship. Most of the time he was out of work; he was still married to a woman he hadn't seen in many years.more
She was loyal; she really wanted to make it work. She empathized with his pain and encouraged him in his efforts to get or create work. She paid his bills and nursed him when he was sick. When at last she realized that he really was not going to be the man she wanted, when she realized that she'd had all she could take, she still felt terrible guilt about leaving him.
Our work together, and some help from good friends, finally accomplished the task of moving him out of the house. Then we spent time letting her experiment and learn what she could expect from a good relationship.
And then one of those good friends introduced her to Dan. Now she recognized him as a person she could spend her life with happily. They've been married for several years.
I had the good luck to see her again, some time after we'd terminated therapy, and learned that they are still delighted to be married to one another.