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6 Ways To Turn An "OK" Relationship Into An UNBELIEVABLE One

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Top Six Tips For A GREAT Relationship
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Keep the spark, the connection, and the sensuality in your relationship.

Marriage is challenging enough. Everyone can use a tip or two to keep things fresh, alive, passionate, and connected!

After connecting with thousands of men and women on my Facebook Page, here are the best ways to keep your relationship vibrant and make marriage last forever:

1. Don't give up the newness of your relationship.

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As relationships mature, couples tend to forget that they are men and women first, and spouses/significant others second. Effort is required to keep things fresh. Never lose sight of the fact that as a relationship grows, you are left with a friendship.

So, start out as friends and stay friends even after you become lovers

2. Recognize that you aren't able to change the other person... they have to do that on their own.

So often, people try to mold or change their significant others into what they wish or want them to be. That approach is destined for failure.

You can't change anyone... they have to want to change and grow themselves. You can only control how you act or react to any issues that they present.

3. Make sure they earn your respect and long-term love.


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Far too often, once the courtship phase concludes, men drop back from putting in as much effort... and women allow it. To counter this, men need to keep their effort level high... and women need to not allow a man's halfway effort to serve as acceptable.

4. Keep your strength, your individuality, and your self-esteem up-front-and-center.

A relationship is made up of two people, and those people have their own wants and needs — both inside and outside of the relationship. It's critical to keep their own interests and wants top-of-mind. Compromise might be good in a relationship, but not when you compromise who you are and what you really want out of your life.

5. Don't settle for second-best.

If the other person in your relationship refuses to grow with you or address what you both need, don't settle. Life is far too short. You should be with someone that enjoys you and treats you as a treasure, not as an obligation or duty.

6. Aim for great sex.


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Sex isn't just the physical act — it's closeness and trust. It's the personification of passion and sharing. It can be as romantic or as passionate or as bondage-infused as the couple wants.

Sharing one's physical self with the other is critical for most relationships (although there are exceptions, of course). Being open, vulnerable, and trusting is an important component of a healthy sex life.

Don't let passion drift away. Remember that passion exists outside of the bedroom. 

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